Tolerance

As with just about anything on YouTube there are negative comments about this video. Those comments have to do with intolerance. And of course I LOVED this video because, to me, it represented tolerance.

In the North American culture, as with anywhere, the population is exploding. So we have more people. But we also have more sensitive people. Spirituality is coming around and the more spiritual you are the more sensitive you are. The younger generations are just coming into this world more sensitive – THIS IS OUR SAVING GRACE, believe me.

People are being more true to themselves, or trying to, but there are angry, opinionated people who make it hard for them. Who make things hard for all of us. Young people are TORMENTING other young people (bullying leads to suicide on a regular basis). Adults systematically discriminate against other adults all the time, or calling a spade a spade, adults bully other adults. ALL THE TIME. Our police, court systems and morgues are busy with the results of young bullies who have grown up and learned to perfect their craft.

The age of intolerance, say about the last 1000 years, has to end. That is the logic of superstition, of the dark ages, of the horse and buggy, of slavery. We’re better than that. Or at least we should be.

Whenever people are too loud with their opinions I file it under “He doth protest too much”. When people don’t care they are indifferent. When people are loudly letting you know something bothers them it makes me wonder why, why does it bother them so much?

My first thought goes to jealousy. My second thought goes to anger; anger at the world, at themselves, at their life. Angry people will jump on the bandwagon of whatever is the ‘target of the day’: minorities, religion, women, immigrants, etc. You know, just stupid stuff. This same logic includes someone saying “those immigrants are taking our jobs” meanwhile the immigrants are working in jobs that that person had no intention of doing anyway. Their anger just needs a direction, it doesn’t have to be logical.

Ok so where does that leave us? The adage ‘Hurt people hurt people’ applies here. We can’t meet intolerance with intolerance. The buck has to stop with us. I’ve been in some bad relationships (who hasn’t?) and recently I’ve decided any hurt would stop with me; when someone else hurts me I’m not going to hurt them back.

The cycle of hurt, of intolerance, has to stop with us. No matter what comes our way we should only give back love, tolerance and acceptance. With time Anyone will change if treated with kindness and consideration. People are 3 dimensional, complicated beings; just because someone is angry or mean doesn’t mean they’re an ahole, it means they have issues that need to be addressed. Many ‘skinheads’ aren’t true Nazi’s, they were loners who were targeted. They were made to feel like part of a group (probably for the first time in their life), to be accepted, to be cared for. They didn’t join to collectively hate another group, they joined to improve their own life, to feel better, to feel happier. So easily that same person could have gone down another life path if another ‘group’ had paid them the same attention.

The best way to combat intolerance is to be tolerant ourselves and to decide that LOVE will be the defining factor in our lives, in all that we think, say and do.

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To React Or Not To React

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One of the hardest things to control in ourselves is our emotions, our reactions.
You see, reacting is a choice. We’re not taught that, but it is. When we react to something we just add to the problem or issue.

I had something happen today that normally I would get angry about. But I… guess I felt the anger come on and just stopped it in its tracks. I felt No emotions about the situation. None whatsoever. This helped me realize that I have No idea why the other person did what they did so how can I get upset about it? And even if I did know reacting wouldn’t help.

Staying cool and calm lets you remain level-headed. You are then able to logically look at the situation and see what is the next best course of action. I know that sounds very robot-like but it is truly the best way to keep on top of things happening around and to you. It puts you in Complete control. The person who is run by their emotions has no control over their life.

We need to stop giving control of our lives to other people. With practice we can all control our reactions.