“Let Go and Let God”

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We’re very much a controlling society. We want to make or force things to happen. We decide certain things should happen and we map out our entire lives accordingly: go to X school, start X career, buy a house, get a dog, get married and have 2.5 children, have 2 vacations a year, then retire and move to X city. Well…

“Life is what happens when you’re making plans.” Life gets treated like a To-Do list and it’s not.

Trying to force things to happen is Exactly what keeps them from happening. How many couples, after years of trying to have a child, give up and start the adoption process. Then BAM, they get pregnant.

We can put work into finding out ‘If I want X career this is what I need to do to get there’ but we don’t necessarily put work into finding out Who We Are. For most of us the life we strive for, the life we planned, Isn’t the life we were meant to live. We don’t realize that because we’re too busy forcing our square-peg life into a round hole. ‘It doesn’t fit now but if I Just Keep Pushing….’.

Stop pushing. Temporarily put aside your plans and aspirations and take stock. Do you actually Enjoy that career or is it all about money? Does your life have balance or is your life all about work or living for other people? Were those aspirations even yours to begin with?

Life is not do-or-die. You CAN make adjustments. And make them often. A dress may look nice until you put it on. You don’t buy it just because it’s a nice dress; if it doesn’t fit it doesn’t fit. If something in your life doesn’t fit get rid of it or change it. Who cares what other’s say? This is your life, not theirs. You have to live it 24/7. Why wouldn’t you want your life to be as enjoyable as possible?

We need to have goals and plans so that we have a direction but we shouldn’t be uncompromising in those goals and plans. If life shows us that something even better or different is in store than what we’d envisioned then who are we to argue? Life knows better.

Take Joy In Life

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Do you walk fast and let your mind ruminate about your worries and problems, or do you take your time and actually see your surroundings? Do you see the lovely different colours (That’s right, colour not color. I’m in Canada WordPress) of the leaves on the trees or on the ground? Do you hear the wind shake the branches on the trees? Do you hear the rustle of leaves on the ground or crunching underfoot? Do you hear nearby dogs barking? Kids playing? Cars driving by on an unseen street? Birds chirping?

Taking joy in life means also being able to actually see the world around you. Taking the time to notice the little things. After Halloween how many people still have decorations up? Who leaves their outdoor Christmas lights up year round? Those things aren’t really important but if you’re not noticing stuff like that then you’re probably walking around in a fog.  And that means you miss out on all Kinds of things.

Life is an every day occurrence. It’s happening Right Now. Not yesterday and not tomorrow. Right now. Memories are getting made right now. Good times are happening right now.

Don’t look back on the past and remember memories fondly, wishing you could go back there. That means you gave up control of your life and you’re not really living anymore.
Your life NOW should be as great as any moment in your past. If not, then Do Something About It! Take back control of your life and start doing things you enjoy. This is Your life. All yours. No one else’s.

If you’re reading a book you aren’t enjoying, and you don’t have to read it…. then stop! If your food could use a little more flavour (yup, still in Canada) then stop eating it and go add more spice! If it’s raining and you love the rain then grab an umbrella and go walk in the rain! If you have rubber boots on then jump in some puddles! (Or if you have spare shoes at home and are close enough then jump in anyway). If you’re walking down the street and listening to music, then dance to it :-D Don’t look to see if anyone sees you…who cares?

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You don’t have to be a ‘responsible adult’ ALL the time. That’s no fun! And life is Meant to be fun!

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Slow Down

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There’s one thing that enables almost Everything I’ve talked about so far. That is…

MEDITATION

I never knew much about meditation and thought of it as a hippy or monk thing. I now realize how very wrong I was!

…You’re lying in bed or on the couch. You’re So comfortable! Just about to nod off, feeling so relaxed. Your mind is quieting down. Ever done this? Of course you have! Every single day. How else do you fall asleep? If you’ve never meditated, well then You, my friend, sort-of already do ;-)

Meditation is being still, being calm, and letting All thoughts go from your mind. Thoughts are like pesky children who like to keep coming back. Close the door and keep them in the other room. If they open the door then Lock it. One way to practice being thought free is to have a focal point, something to look at. Think only of that thing. When random thoughts come along, like floating helium balloons, push them along. Every balloon that comes your way, just push it along. With time and practice you’ll get better and better at this and will experience fewer and fewer balloons.

Candle flame is a good focal point, since it’s hypnotizing.

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The Benefits to emptying your mind? I used to think it was bad to ‘not have a thought in my head’ as if that signified stupidity. But when lying down for the night I could never get my damn brain to shut up and just let me sleep! All through high school I’d lie in bed for an hour before my brain would give me reprieve – even though I had a set bedtime. As well as my sleeping problem I had poor control over my emotions or temper. I reacted to absolutely Everything.

When you are able to empty your mind you gain control over your thoughts and emotions. You are able to act, not react. You have control over your life. And meditating helps you see with clarity; you can see solutions to problems you’re currently dealing with, or see which decision you should make. You are also able to control negative thoughts, when they pop into your mind you can just pop them back out. Kind of like pushing that balloon along.

Meditation puts you in a state of balance and being balanced gives you optimum health, more happiness, better brain function (proven by studies), makes you more productive (you’re able to focus); enhances your life and career. There is No drug that can do all that!

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To React Or Not To React

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One of the hardest things to control in ourselves is our emotions, our reactions.
You see, reacting is a choice. We’re not taught that, but it is. When we react to something we just add to the problem or issue.

I had something happen today that normally I would get angry about. But I… guess I felt the anger come on and just stopped it in its tracks. I felt No emotions about the situation. None whatsoever. This helped me realize that I have No idea why the other person did what they did so how can I get upset about it? And even if I did know reacting wouldn’t help.

Staying cool and calm lets you remain level-headed. You are then able to logically look at the situation and see what is the next best course of action. I know that sounds very robot-like but it is truly the best way to keep on top of things happening around and to you. It puts you in Complete control. The person who is run by their emotions has no control over their life.

We need to stop giving control of our lives to other people. With practice we can all control our reactions.