Comparing apples to oranges

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(This post is from my Instagram account @taishka_lefler)

We seem to always be comparing ourselves to someone. We women compare ourselves to other women. Men compare themselves to other men.

But it’s truly comparing apples to oranges. These comparisons are shallow. Purely on the surface. We can never truly compare one person against another.
There’s a Carl Sagan joke: if you want to make an apple pie from scratch, first you have to create the universe.
Someone can only be compared to me if they have lived my life. Every second of it. But no one has. Not one out of 7.5 billion people has lived a life exactly like mine.

Looks are a culmination of DNA from 2 sources. But those 2 sources are a culmination of DNA from thousands of ancestors. What is the point in comparing looks unless we’re willing to compare ancestors? Just as skin colour is a direct correlation to sun exposure our ancestors experienced, features are a direct correlation to the elements.

We compare strength knowing nothing of the tools provided, or lacking, in that person’s upbringing or in their life.
We judge financial wealth, assuming others care about money the same way that we do.
We judge the looks of someone’s partner, assuming that person looks for the same things we do, knowing nothing of the character, sense of humour or compassion of that partner that drew the person in in the first place.
We compare clothes, accessories, cars…
Brand name clothes are still just clothes. A Gucci handbag is still just a handbag. A Lamborghini is still just a car. And money is merely a tool, only one of many that can usually get the job done.

You are not your things & neither am I. We are all so much more.
We bring so much to the table. We shouldn’t short change ourselves. We shouldn’t make baseless comparisons.
We can really only compare ourselves to… ourselves.

 

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Connections

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I’ve noticed people feel a connection to the people they’re related to, yet they don’t seem to feel the same way towards all the other people around them.  And if you live in a city you’re always surrounded by people you’re not related to, people who you feel no connection to.

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Back far enough in time we all shared the same DNA but we have this ‘that was then, this is now’ attitude about it.
My uncle, while questing out the Lefler family tree, found a connection to Charles Lindbergh. I find that very cool; aerospace and space exploration are my biggest passions (why I took mechanical engineering and I’m definitely game for the one-way trip to Mars). But being a spiritual person I believe we are souls in bodies, and are connected to absolutely everything in existence.

We sit on public transit, wedged in with many other people, but don’t say a peep to anyone. Why? Because they’re ‘strangers’.
A stranger is a friend you haven’t made yet. We share So Much in common with these so-called strangers. We all want to be happy, strive to improve our lives, have worries, fears, laugh, cry, love and suffer loss.

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So back to this perceived separateness. Get your hands on the documentary ‘I AM’ and about halfway through there’s this fascinating scene with HeartMath and yogurt. I swear to God, yogurt. You will be blown away.

We Are Not Separate. That is an illusion.

Now for some more hidden connectedness. Ever had Reiki?

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What about when you can feel when someone is looking at you? (I actually don’t experience this but I have been caught by others) Or you can just tell when someone is in a good or bad mood? When just being around a certain person always makes you feel comfortable, or uncomfortable? When you think of someone and they then reach out to you, or vice versa?

These are examples of the ‘us’ that is more than just flesh and blood. We are able to detect so much more than what we can hear and see (as those senses are pretty limited).
I think most, if not all of us, have experienced something “paranormal”. Yet we are afraid to say anything, to admit to it, because it’s taboo. Just how ridiculous is that?? We all have this ‘secret’, yet most of us are afraid of what someone else will say or think if we talk about it. Yet they themselves likely would have also experienced something, at some point.

This dirty word “paranormal” is really just our ability to tap into things we’re already connected to, whether in our own world/plane/dimension or another.

You have no connection to the people around you? Oh, you have connection to So Much More than just the 8 billion people who live in this world with you. So Much More…

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