Slow Down

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There’s one thing that enables almost Everything I’ve talked about so far. That is…

MEDITATION

I never knew much about meditation and thought of it as a hippy or monk thing. I now realize how very wrong I was!

…You’re lying in bed or on the couch. You’re So comfortable! Just about to nod off, feeling so relaxed. Your mind is quieting down. Ever done this? Of course you have! Every single day. How else do you fall asleep? If you’ve never meditated, well then You, my friend, sort-of already do ;-)

Meditation is being still, being calm, and letting All thoughts go from your mind. Thoughts are like pesky children who like to keep coming back. Close the door and keep them in the other room. If they open the door then Lock it. One way to practice being thought free is to have a focal point, something to look at. Think only of that thing. When random thoughts come along, like floating helium balloons, push them along. Every balloon that comes your way, just push it along. With time and practice you’ll get better and better at this and will experience fewer and fewer balloons.

Candle flame is a good focal point, since it’s hypnotizing.

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The Benefits to emptying your mind? I used to think it was bad to ‘not have a thought in my head’ as if that signified stupidity. But when lying down for the night I could never get my damn brain to shut up and just let me sleep! All through high school I’d lie in bed for an hour before my brain would give me reprieve – even though I had a set bedtime. As well as my sleeping problem I had poor control over my emotions or temper. I reacted to absolutely Everything.

When you are able to empty your mind you gain control over your thoughts and emotions. You are able to act, not react. You have control over your life. And meditating helps you see with clarity; you can see solutions to problems you’re currently dealing with, or see which decision you should make. You are also able to control negative thoughts, when they pop into your mind you can just pop them back out. Kind of like pushing that balloon along.

Meditation puts you in a state of balance and being balanced gives you optimum health, more happiness, better brain function (proven by studies), makes you more productive (you’re able to focus); enhances your life and career. There is No drug that can do all that!

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The Secret to Looking Younger and Losing Weight

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I bet that got your attention! What if I told you there was no secret?

How you think of yourself Directly affects your physiology. You can give yourself blisters, heat rashes, physical ailments and even cancer (all proven). Yes, cancer!

Likewise our THINKING can also UNDO all of these.

Harvard psychologist Ellen Lange did an experiment involving several hotel maids http://www.nytimes.com/2007/12/09/magazine/09mindfulexercise.html. She found that just by telling some of the women that their work should make them lose weight…it did! Nothing else was changed in their lifestyle except for her message. (I was actually a motel maid for 1 day. I quit because it IS hard work, for very low pay.) Those women changed their thinking and their mind did the rest!

When it comes to your looks, do you compare yourself to magazine covers? Any media-released images? If so, then STOP!! NONE of those images are real, they are ALL Photoshopped. If the most ‘beautiful’ (a subjective term) women in the world aren’t good enough then what are you trying to measure up to? You’re trying to measure up to unreality, literally.

Here’s the secret to looking younger and losing weight. Are you ready for it?…

– Eat properly, exercise and get fresh air
– Laugh
– Enjoy life
– Do things you enjoy
– Stop worrying! You’re either creating problems that aren’t there or worrying about something you Can’t Do Anything About! Accept the situation and then move on. Just do the best you can :)
– Don’t spend too much time in the sun but Do get enough sunlight (the best source of Vit D – and proper nutrition will deal with sun damage to skin as long as you’re not a sun worshiper)
– Get enough sleep
– Be kind to everyone
– Let go of guilt
– Don’t hold grudges
– Don’t assume! (My personal motto)
– Be loving, caring and considerate towards yourself
– Do Not Act Your Age
– See the pattern? Add your own points here…

That last one is KEY. I look 10 years younger than I am (damn you grey hair, you’re just going to confuse people). My 40th birthday is right around the corner and no one believes it. It’s because I don’t FEEL like I’m almost 40. I go for long walks, have downtime to recharge my batteries, keep my sense of humour (I’m Always laughing at myself whether I’m alone or not), and keep my energy level up. How do I keep my energy level up? By Believing that my energy level is up :) And I always take the stairs, never the escalator.

Big for me is also releasing my inner child. When I stopped feeling like I had to always act ‘grown-up’ and just let myself be silly sometimes life got a Whole Lot Better!

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Another point is to keep good, loving, supportive people around you. Your environment should be loving, not toxic.
If you don’t like your job, change it. If you don’t like a friend, stop spending time with them. If you are with the wrong person, then end the relationship. Anything that doesn’t make you happy (the majority of the time; sometimes life just happens) is toxic to your life and needs to be changed. Removing someone from your life doesn’t have to be negative or dramatic. Just tell them you care about them but need to move on with your life, or some version of that.
If I don’t feel it would help someone to grow then I don’t tell them what I didn’t like about them, I just say a few kind words then go on my way. Even if your points are valid, if the other person isn’t ready to make changes to themself or even listen, then that honesty will just make both of you hurt/angry/mad and create negative drama and an ugly parting. Please don’t do that to yourself or others.

AGE IS JUST A NUMBER

It won’t affect you if you don’t let it. You are only as old as you feel. I promise you that.
My grandparents were very mobile right up until the end, they were in their 80’s. I’ve know people 2-3 decades younger than my grandparents who practically have 1 foot in the grave. I think we all do. It’s a combination of lifestyle choice and self-image. You can’t eat fast food, not exercise and expect to have optimal health. Remember, those are the very same organs you were Born with, they need maintenance and tune-ups, just like your car. Also Stop Saying you’re old! You’re not old. What’s old? 400 year old trees, that’s what’s old. The pyramids are old. Have a healthy perspective. Stop saying you’re old (negative self-talk) and I guarantee you will stop Feeling old. Remove age from your self-talk. You’re you, plain and simple. And you’re Fabulous!

When you look in the mirror and don’t like what you see, remember that’s just your vessel.
You are a Soul with a Body – not the other way around.
Inside you are a Beautiful Bright Light. You shine so bright your human eyes wouldn’t be able to handle it. Your vessel may not always please you but That Is Not You.
You Are Perfect!

So take your vessel out for walks, fresh air and exercise, give it lots of water and proper nutrition and it will look and feel better. And be kind to it :) Think happy thoughts, do good deeds, and be loving and supportive of yourself. Positive results guaranteed!!

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Author’s note: Someone recently commented on nudity. The first image the unique spelling of beautiful really intrigued me. I liked it and felt her bare back was harmless, nothing else is shown. This last image was created by a very large corporation that deals with weight loss. They would have figured out a long time ago that body image and loving ourselves lead to weight issues, as stated in that graphic. Since this large profitable corporation created and released the image above I felt it was fine for this post and summed up the point nicely.